One day, strolling down Chapters with my friend Kelly, (much to my chagrin) she dragged me helplessly into the “Self-Help Relationships” section where a fat lady was busily perusing through different spinoffs of the Kama Sutra. I made a mental note to myself: “If I pretend to not see her looking for sex books, she can pretend to not see me picking up chick-relationship-dating books. No eye contact. Deal!” Kelly eventually found one of the two books she was going to use to rescue me with - He’s Just Not That Into You. Reading the foreward, I can say the book has plainly said the things I knew, but failed to truly believe. In plain black and white, one poignant quote said it all:
If a (sane) guy really likes you, there ain’t nothing that’s going to get in his way. And if he’s not sane, why would you want him?
Well, in my case, it’s because “He’s just ready for a relationship” – bullshit, and I know it. How many other distressed men and women are losing sleep over similar woes? How many other people know it, but don’t accept it? With the advantage of me living the dichotomic life of a gay-man and that of a straight-assuming jock, I’ve been both fortunately and unfortunately privy to both sides of the story. Fortunate, for the wisdom; unfortunate, to say I’ve been on the “not that into you side.” With such a realization, I decided to give birth to this blog (since being gay, that’s about as far as “birth giving” I will ever give in this lifetime).
